What to Bring (And Not to Bring) to Friendsgiving


Feeling a little overwhelmed by your holiday schedule? Enter Friendsgiving, a time to gather with friends in a casual setting to decompress and swap stories from office parties and family get-togethers gone awry. Friendsgiving is a relatively new tradition, but it is already sacred to its participants. If this is your first Friendsgiving, here are some tips on how to navigate the party like a pro.

What to bring: yourself and your significant other, if that person is invited and/or known to the group

What not to bring: uninvited persons. The Friendsgiving space has to be a safe place to vent and strangers can upset the dynamic. At the very least, ask your host before you show up with someone no one was expecting.


What to bring: a fun, lowkey board game or a playlist

What not to bring: a game that takes three hours to explain, ten hours to play, and fourteen hours to pack up.


What to bring: a dish you want to eat. Don’t be afraid to try something new. These people are your friends, and Friendsgiving is a safe space. May we suggest Bourbon Bread Pudding? (Don’t forget that anything you bring is going to need to travel with you!)

What not to bring: something you won’t eat. None of this “I’m not eating gluten right now, but here’s this bread pudding.” No one at Friendsgiving needs to feel judged.


Bourbon Bread Pudding


1 package Aunt Millie’s
Old Fashioned White Dinner Rolls
3 c. 2% milk
4 eggs
2 cups sugar
1 tsp. vanilla extract
1 c. chopped pecans
½ c. seedless raisins
2 Tbsp. butter
Whiskey Sauce (recipe below)


Whiskey Sauce
1 ½ c. sugar
⅓ c. water
¾ c. butter (cut into 12 pieces)
2 tbsp. bourbon whiskey
1 tsp. cornstarch


  • Preheat oven to 350 degrees, and butter a 9” x 13” baking dish.

  • Tear dinner rolls into small pieces and place in a large bowl. Cover bread with the milk and let absorb for 15 minutes.

  • In another bowl, beat eggs, sugar, and vanilla until thick and creamy. Add pecans and raisins, and pour over soaked milk and stir until mixed.

  • Spoon the mixture into the buttered baking dish.

  • Bake for 50-60 minutes, until a knife inserted in the center comes out clean.

  • Let stand 10 minutes.

Whiskey Sauce

  • In a medium saucepan, combine the sugar with the water. Bring to a boil without stirring.

  • Insert a candy thermometer and let simmer until the mixture reaches 238 degrees, about 4 – 5 minutes. Remove the thermometer.

  • Turn off the heat and add the butter all at once. Stir until the butter is completely melted.

  • Mix the bourbon and cornstarch together, and then add to the mixture.

  • Return the sauce to the heat and cook until it boils and remove from heat.

  • Cool slightly and serve warm over the bread pudding.